How do I prepare for a planned c-section after two emergency sections are crowding my mind? My once trusty pregnancy ‘manual’ has only a short chapter devoted to c-sections and it mainly discusses the possible reasons for needing one. It’s not debatable that I will have a c-section in around 19 weeks time. It’s a fact. It’s not a dark cloud of fear hanging over my head this time. It’s a fact. It’s also a fact that I will once more feel a little bit of regret that my body was unable to perform one of its most natural tasks.
So, how the hell do I prepare?
I read this article on the BBC news website today, which speaks of the need for antenatal classes and pregnancy guide books to discus the reality of childbirth and the fact that some women will end up with a c-section. Whether it is an emergency section or a planned section, around one in four women in the UK will have one. And some of those women will feel terribly guilty that they were unable to join the natural birth brigade like all the other mums at baby group. Some will even feel traumatised by the fact that they had a section alone.
When did we decide that having a c-section was such a taboo subject? Is it really a taboo subject, or are we so focused on natural childbirth that we’re worried preparation for a c-section will have a negative impact on a woman’s attitude during pregnancy and labour? Personally, I don’t want to feel like a failure this time. I want to feel like I’ve done the right thing for my body and for my baby.
I meet with my consultant after my 20 week scan in a few day’s time. I will discuss the section and ask the questions that I already have flying around in my head. I will do all that I can to ensure that I understand exactly what will happen and why. I just wish that all women were given the opportunity to do this too. I wish I had been prepared for last time. Instead, I was told over and over that another section was not on the agenda and that I would give birth naturally. No wonder I felt more than a little let down.
Have you had a planned section? How did you prepare? What questions did you find it essential to be answered?